Healthy Weighs

Changing Things


As each New Year begins we often resolve to change things, to do better, to be better. It is easy for us to set our expectations so high that we lose heart. So, let us relook at the stonewall we try breaking through.

First, know that you are good enough just as you are. You are loved.

Second, what you really need to do is seek balance rather than change. Seek balance in your body, mind and spirit. Seek wholeness so that physically you are in a good place or on your way to improving your physical well being. For wholeness you must also look to your emotional and spiritual parts and be sure those parts of your “being-ness” are well nurtured. You must understand that all three aspects of yourself must be nurtured. Seek balance, know that you are the change you want.

You have been given a good set of bariatric tools. Now in your very center: balance and begin to use the tools along with your ever growing self-discipline to be the change agent for yourself. God walks with you and whispers in your heart, “You are in charge of you.”

Lua Tzu, Far Eastern philosopher in 6 BC, wrote this wonderful message that is relevant even today. I encourage you to read it and reflect upon it, for it is wisdom that can empower you to be the change you want.

Always we hope someone else has the answer,
Some other place will be better,
Some other time it will all turn out.
This is it.
No one else has the answer.

No other place will be better.
And it has already turned out.
At the center of your being, you have the answer.
You know who you are.
And you know what you want.
There is no need to run outside for seeing,
Nor to peer from a window.
Rather abide at the center of your being
For the more you leave it, the less you learn.
Search your heart
And see the way to be.


Charline Grafton is the Staff Chaplain for Perioperative Services at Bon Secours St. Francis Hospital. All surgery patients have the opportunity to visit with Charline several times before their surgery. Charline is the author of “Things Take Time,” a book of reflections and prayers for bariatric surgery patients.

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